Making Progress



Progress is the result of setting and achieving goals, or at least moving in the right direction. We are accustomed to setting health or career goals, but are we setting and working on relational goals? If you're health, career and finances are great, but your relationship is struggling, how would you feel? And, how can you get things moving in the right direction, if you don't have a target? 

Change vs Progress

Change is a given. You don't have to work on change. It is going to happen. Progress is different. You have to create a target and make an effort at reaching it, to make progress. Your relationship, just like other areas of your life, requires effort. In order of have a "harvest" you must plant and nourish your crop. Therefore, you must regularly discuss how you're doing, where you're going and how to get there in order to make progress. 

Direction



Direction is the "righting" of the ship. Just like a sailor or a pilot, we have to keep adapting and getting the ship/plane pointed in the right direction. Even if things are where you want them, just heading in the right direction will make you feel more positive about the future. In therapy, couples often feel tremendously better once they make the slightest move towards relational progress. 

BONUS #2 Couple Council

Couple Council is a process for managing issues, setting goals and accepting feedback from each other. We thought about making this a course on it's own...and maybe we will, but here are the basics of creating your own relational Board of Directors or Couple Council. 

Progress Challenge!

Instructions: Print the attached pdf file. Read and ponder the statement and questions each morning on your own and with your partner in the evening. This is the best way to improve at each concept and take your relationship to the Next Level.